Hey all…

I saw an old Wire in the Blood last night (Robson Green), which is usually a good story and written with originality and thought.  However, the episode I watched last night fell into some of the traps the media fall into all too often.  They gave the impression that people who look at pornography are likely to commit violent crime and then of course the crimes themselves were committed featuring BDSM and a version of the Slaves of Gor.  Now I am not a fan of Gorean slavery, but I am a fan of BDSM, and the story made it look evil personified.  The tone taken by the police when they interviewed ANYONE with a pornography collection was one of disgust, and the character played by Robson Green took just as closed a view when he began his online research of the BDSM community.

Violent crime is not just associated to porn.  It has been associated to most things in human life, including alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and of course the most popular of all; Money.  Also, the proportion of people who watch porn and then go on to commit violent crime against women or men (particularly serial crime) is very low indeed.  Finally, there is still no conclusive link to the viewing of ‘specialist’ material and violent sex crime.  Porn and BDSM have their bad sides, just like most things created by the human mind, but neither deserves to be treated quite so poorly by the media.

In the case of BDSM, I wonder if the secrecy of our scene does not help.  People are frightened of what they don’t know.  For instance, the Freemasons can get bad press, despite their charity work, because they are a secret society shrouded in a degree of mystery.  Maybe it is a vicious circle.  The media vilify us so we go underground, giving off this air of secrecy, so we are further vilified.  I am not sure; just a thought.  Please do leave me yours if you have one…

I have been (rather foolishly) reading some forums on a break from doing some internet research and what I read riled me beyond belief.  The discussion was on who is the best sub in London, which, before I even start on the real issue is a pointless argument as it is subjective!

Once more the contributors fell into the trap of the “True submissive” and possibly the “True Dominant” (I think the posters may not have read the highly informative Screw the roses, bring me the thorns, and some of the people I saw on the forum it became obvious their IQ was equal to some of the people I can sadly admit to knowing on the Scene who’s IQ is equivalent to that of a deceased squirrel…)  It was stated that a true submissive could not possibly switch as it would be against her nature.  I have an issue with this point as shown below:

What if the submissive is ORDERED by a Dominant to administer punishment upon another or themselves?  If they refuse based on it being against their nature is that not being disobedient?

I enjoy Domination, but do not get the sexual kick out of it that I do when I submit, both in private and with the women who really enjoy the scenarios I do.  Therefore am I no longer truly submissive because I enjoy Domination on an intellectual level?  My Mistress would argue that I am all submissive believe me…

Do we really have to box people in, put labels on them?  Why is there such a need to do this?  Does it make you feel safer to allot a label not only to yourself but to others as well?

Since when was being the best submissive about how many strokes of an implement he/she can take and how hard?  No one mentioned the psychological side to any depth, which is so important and a huge part of submission and domination and the exchange between the two.

There is no such thing as a “true submissive” as submission means different things to different submissives and the Dominants they interact with.  ”True Master’s” I have met in the past and have found them up their rear end at best and dangerous at worst.

Rant over so anyone who has any opinions please share!

Another random thought of mine for this week, is while I was shopping for some lovely new clothing for Mistress, I came across this delightful shop…

Anyway, the clothing over there is seriously to die for. Showing Mistress I was rewarded with her drooling and immediately marking down several items that she immediately wants lol. Bondnage is offering exclusive, bespoke and prêt-a-porter latex couture. Any items from the Bondinage collection would be welcomed in any Mistresses wardrobe. The latex clothing range includes catsuits, corsetry, dresses, leg wear, skirts, tops, accessories and underwear. The Bondinage signature style combines the core elements of strength and femininity with a seriously sexy appeal… can’t wait to see Mistress in some of them…

From what I can see, this is designer latex at it’s very best… Full review of the shop to come once we’ve ordered some new clothing from them

M

Not sure what was going through the ‘artists’ mind when he did this, but after making such a hilarious statement to the little town of Lewis, he’s somehow become some of an infamous… Well, not face anyway…

For those of you who haven’t cottoned on to what im talking about here, a few days ago, some mysterious enlarged posters started appearing around Lewes, apparently some gent had taken it upon himself to tie his cock and balls up with some yellow ribbon, take a photo of it…

A Sussex Police spokesman said the “budding photographer” has “failed to impress local police”.

Apparently though he wasn’t impressed with the end result however as he then proceeded to have the photo blown up to A3 size, before posting his ‘masterpiece’ around the town… Needless to say, I had a good laugh and had to actually wonder if this is really a good use of police resources (they’re having the posters fingerprinted, apparently). Why can’t they just reproduce the pics in the Sussex Express and see if anyone can identify him?

Amusing as this all is however, it pales in comparison to the quote from the local police investigating the matter…

“However, from what we’ve seen, if this is a self-portrait, the artist won’t be in a hurry to be identified.”

Quite an amusing story i thought, though sadly, as much as i have tried, i haven’t actually been able to locate a copy of this infamous photograph to see what all the fuss is about… Perhaps the blokme is wearing a yellow ribbon on his knob in protest at the Lib Dems making a cock up of joining the Tory coalition.

Quite possibly one of the most random pieces of news this week, but the absolute winner has to go to a piece about a Japanese firm who claim to have invented a vibrator that actually charges itself whilst being used!!!

“Our Vibration Energy Cells generate electricity using a coil, a magnet, and condenser that charges electricity. These are all embedded in the battery,”

The idea behind the technology is to remove the need for toxic rechargeable batteries and other disposable batteries that can harm the environment, said the company.”Walking with a device in your pocket would vibrate with a frequency of around 2Hz. But once the device is warmed up and vibrating fast enough, it actively creates enough power to charge itself indefinitely”

Now this is actually an amusing idea. From what I can see, it’s actually a variant of the kinetically charged torches that have been around on the market for a while, the only amusing factor here is that they’ve managed to actually merge this idea with a vibrator and make it work. Now this seems like the brainchild of quite a warped individual, creating a vibrator that is in fact endlessly renewable in power, so basically, set it going and it isn’t going to stop until the vibrator actually burns itself out… now that would be a testing scenario I’d love to see

M

As Mistress Kent will attest to, I am helplessly addicted to caffeine in all its glorious forms, from coffee to Red Bull. But it seems everywhere I go these days, there’s a new energy drink hitting the marketplace, promising to boost our energy and overall health with a plethora of vitamins and herbal supplements.

But the sexier side of this liquid lust is the boost it can give to the libido. No, I kid you not…

And the marketing of these drinks has paid off and companies are reaping the benefits. According to reports, the energy drink market continues growing to nearly eight million in sales per year. By 2001, the energy drink market had grown to nearly eight million per year in retail sales. Over the next five years, it grew an average of over 50 percent per year, totalling over £3 billion in 2005.

Diet energy drinks are growing at nearly twice that rate within the category, as are 16-ounce sized energy drinks. The energy drink market became a £5.4 billion dollar market in 2007.

Energy drinks are typically attractive to young people. Approximately 65 percent of drinkers are between the ages of 13 and 35, with males being approximately 65 of the market. A 2008 patient poll found that 20 percent of respondents ages 21–30 had used energy drinks in high school or college to stay awake longer to study or write a paper and 70 percent of respondents knew someone who had used an energy drink to stay awake longer to study or work. Energy drinks are also popular as drink mixers.

Its predicted the market will hit £10 billion this year. Big companies such as Pepsi, Coca-Cola and Molson tried to match smaller companies’ innovative and different approach, with marginal success.

But the big players aren’t the only ones who are getting a piece of the action. Several adult companies have tapped into the market and have come up with their own energy drinks that promise to give an additional boost below the belt.

Playboy Enterprises came out with regular and sugar free versions of its energy drink. The company is banking on its name and logo to lend credibility to the drink. The ingredients include ginseng, guarana extract (a fruit derived from a plant that contains about twice the caffeine found in coffee beans) taurine (an organic acid) caffeine, horny goat weed, damiana leaf extract and BVitamins.

So what do consumers think of Playboy’s energy drink?

A review posted on NeedCoffee.com by Widge stated, “It tastes like an orange version of every other energy drink. I must say that the arrangement of sugars has kept me from tasting the sucralose to excess, so I might actually be able to finish this. I have to say, though, it’s just not terribly impressive. While I imagine I’ll get some kind of a boost out of this just due to the ingredients list, it hasn’t happened yet. While it’s not offensive, it just doesn’t do anything for me taste-wise. And unless it’s a drink with wired-level buzz, then taste remains an issue. While I wouldn’t turn one down if I was desperate to stay awake, I wouldn’t bother seeking out that odd convenience store to buy another.”

Another post on EnergyDrinkRatings.com reads, “Instead of the typical medicinal aftertaste you get with Red Bull, you get a more pleasant, dare I say, bubble gum, aftertaste. The caffeine and other ingredients definitely makes for a worthwhile drink with plenty of energy.”

Vanessa said, “I tried the drink. It’s amazing. I could never get myself to drink an energy drink because of the nasty medicine aftertaste. Not with Playboy energy. It’s delicious and I will definitely buy it again!”

Nicole added, “Love this drink, I love the energy it gives me and the taste is great. I drink the sugar free and love it. I just wish I could find it in more places.”

We all know ExtenZe as the male enhancement pill, but now it comes in a drink form.

There’s ExtenZe Libido Shooter and ExtenZe Regular and Sugar Free, containing a mixture of various herbal supplements, including tribistol (believed to enhance production of testosterone), Korean ginseng and yohimbe. BeaMonstar, the folks behind the drink, says it will give you more energy, enhance arousal, stimulate libido and temporarily enhance your size.

Coach Rick from Calif. said, “Bought a can at the liquor store. That night I had the biggest long lasting erection I’ve had in more than ten years. I’m 50 and really haven’t had erection problems… but WOW. It made an immediate difference.”

A student at a state college added, “Although this product is meant to be a sexual enhancer, it has the same ingredients as most energy drinks. The flavor is cherry. Kind of like punch. Energy is OK.”

Odoog of Connecticut said, “It’s good. It worked fast and it’s very reliable. It’s the best product at that price that’s sure to work.”

And last but not least is the Deep Throat Energy Drink, branded of course after the 1972 film and features Linda Lovelace on the can. The active ingredients are caffeine, taurine, and guarana.

One energy drinker says, “The little 8.4 ounce can is pretty cool. The taste is similar to Red Bull. It does however seem that there is more of a fruity aftertaste instead of the medicinal one that Red Bull provides. Overall, not too bad. Red Bull like taste without the crappy aftertaste.”

Another reviewer said, “Good taste, decent kick. While there was nothing extraordinary about the taste and kick of this drink, the shock value of drinking one of these instead of a Red Bull is probably worth it. £40 for a case of the drink is worth it. Give your guests a free Deep Throat at your next party instead of a Red Bull.”

Bruno from Ariz. said, “I had a huge party and had both Red Bull and Deep Throat, and let me tell you, everybody loved Deep Throat better than Red Bull for a mixer. I love Deep Throat and so did everyone at my party.”

Bobo said, “Deep Throat, I love it!”

James said, “I got a can of Deep Throat. It doesn’t have that bitter after taste. You can also make some fun mixed drinks with it. I think it’s a great idea.”

One thing’s for sure, if you add great branding, a dash of sex appeal, and a pinch of health benefits, along with the promise of a good time, consumers will buy it.

I’m now off to order a case of each of these for actual ‘scientific testing’ lol… Should be a laugh, if nothing else. So if there’s a blog during the week of Mistress Kent having to peel me off the ceiling, you know it succeeded

M

Ok, so most people who know me will know I personally am not really that big on football… personally not my type of game… but actually, surprisingly, England actually won a match yesterday… Christina was over the moon

I was in absolute shock… but then we are playing against Germany soon, so the team will be home soon enough :p

We’ve had a fantastically productive week over here at the ‘House of Kent’, with filming, photoshoots, writing and general debauchery… And yes, the chastity video blog will be back up and started again soon. I know I’ve started it twice now without finishing it properly, but with various things to do in the house and filming, it just hasn’t actually been possible to do it fully. I will however, soon!

We’ve also got the kick ass Kent Fetish Fair this Saturday, along with Club XS on the previous night, where we will all be making an appearance. So if you can make it, let us know and come and say hi

M

Ever since I said in a video blog that any questions would be answered seriously and throughly, we’ve had quite a few questions that seem to be all based around chastity, which made me think that it’d be easier to answer them in a blog posting rather than one on one e-mails from me or The Mistress.

So here’s the first batch, hope these answer your questions to your satisfaction.

1. If I go without cumming for a week, will it likely make my masturbation more pleasurable?

While you will have considerably less orgasms, the ones you do have will be much, much more intense than anything you have ever before experienced. When you ejaculate every day, your penis becomes less sensitive. Plus, you build up a tolerance to the chemicals that are released during orgasm. This means you get less pleasure than you should. If you have enough self-control to become a responsible man and only orgasm every four or five weeks, you’ll get a much better rush, as nature intended. Beyond that, being in chastity will force you to find new ways to please your wife, which means you will become a much better lover. She’ll probably brag to her friends about how wonderful you are in bed! Won’t that be nice? You’ll become much more understanding of her body and her needs, and she will appreciate you and love you for it. Last but not least, you’ll free yourself from the shame of masturbation and no longer feel like a little boy who plays with his cock, but, instead, like a man who makes love to his woman!

2. I’ve heard very mixed reviews about chastity devices like the CB6000. Some people say it’s an excellent device for the money, and well worth the purchase price. Others talk about it pinching uncomfortably, splitting in two, and -worst of all- being constructed in such a way -especially regarding the ring that encircles the scrotum- that it is impossible to fit properly at all. (I am only dipping my toe into this particular stream….I’m not ready to get a Prince Albert piercing -gasp- or fly to Germany to be fitted with a made-to-measure chastity device costing several hundred.)

I own a CB 2000 and a “Curve” model, and have no problems at all with pinching or anything like that. But If you’re worried about girth, I’d opt for the curve, which is designed a little wider than the others in the cb line. the problems with the devices splitting is from buying “cheap” cbs, which are ripoffs produced in china or what not. If you buy from an authorized or reputable store you shouldn’t have any issues. When you first start, start with the largest ring that doesnt slide right off. This will prevent any sort of blood restriction, and help your body adapt to the device. As it becomes more comfortable, reduce the size until its nice and snug, but not restrictive.

3. My dick is of average length, but is above average in girth… my wife describes it as “fat and thick.” I am somewhat overweight as well and fear that one of these devices just won’t fit me. (I don’t want to spend upwards of £150.00 for something while i hold the key that I can literally not fit around my dick and balls, only to wind up delegating the damn thing to the status of paperweight or conversation piece sitting on a living room table.)

You mentioned not wanting to “waste” £150 or so, and i just have to ask you a question. What makes you so sure that you wont just take it off and masturbate? As long as you hold the keys for yourself, that option will be there. If you don’t have the motivation to not masturbate normally, I honestly don’t believe a cb is going to change anything if you hold the keys… If you are going to give the keys to your wife and have her as your “keyholder”, then I suggest actually talking about it with her first. While the ‘surprise’ aspect of just locking yourself up and handing her the key is appealing, talking with her about it, and your expectations about being in chastity for her will actually go a long way to making the experience more fulfilling for both of you. Also, talking with her about it first will actually allow you both to look through various chastity devices and find one that works for both of you.

4. I am a bit concerned about the tightness of the fit of such a device and related health issues. If I don’t have the belt on the tightest ring and spacer, I can easily slip out of it to cheat.  (I have type two diabetes, and one of the concerns of my family doctor is with circulation and blood flow to the extremities….The last thing on earth I need is a sex toy that exacerbates my health issues!)

Firstly, no CB is really %100 secure. I say it again, some people can easy pull out of such an device and I dont believe anyone who there is a wholesale chastity device that would work for everyone that is %100 secure. Some that some people get out of, would be impossible for me to pull out of, and vice versa. The whole device is an construction error. That’s why things like the POI or the KSD-G2/G3 etc. exist, but those things still don’t make it impossible to pull out. They only make it impossible to get back in again afterwards. Also its not very comfortable and I am not sure about the long term health effects of such devices, cause they need to be really tight if they really want to work. Everyone serious with chastity and every Mistress who wants to be 100% sure that her little slave doesn’t cheat seems to end up gets a piercing to secure those chastity cages.

There are really only 2 options right now. First you buy a cage/tube device like the cb6000 and secure it with either a waist band or a piercing to prevent cheating or second buy a full and real chastity belt.

I would start with the first option, cause a real full chastity belt costs a lot of money. Up to £1000 for a good one. Also before you pay £150 for a cb6000 and then realize after 2 weeks that you can easy get your cock out, jerk off and stick it back in again and that this plastic thing is also hard to clean and it might even burst, I would suggest that you buy a stainless steel version. It cannot burst and its easy cleanable and it feels so much better than some cheap plastic between your legs. You still have the pullout problem so you either need to secure it with a piercing or a waist belt but hey well you have the same problem with a cb6000 so its not a con.

Male chastity today fits more commonly in to a healthy loving and sexual relationship than into the world of BDSM and leather clad dominatrix, and it works best if the following 5 elements are part of that relationship:

1. Your wife enjoys controlling your sexual activity.
2. Your wife delights in deciding whether or not she will permit you to orgasm.
3. You have an overwhelming need to please your wife without promise, or expectation, of reward.
4. You feel you need to be submissive toward your loving wife, and that you want to be aware of her every need.
5. Chastity has been a major fetish for you.

Male chastity today is something unique to each individual man and his relationship. In general no one style of chastity is better than any other, it is what is best for you and your wife.

5. Hello, A while ago, I found a pair of panties that had an open crotch with a hood attached. Basically the sub’s head would be put in the hood and held in the dom crotch. Does anyone know where I can find this? Thanks in advance for any help.

Bit of a random request there… but after a bit of research by me and Mistress Kent, we think we’ve located what you asked for… hopefully it’s the Latex Hood & Pussy Pants by The Sub Shop, though this is an American site, they do ship internationally… Though sadly we couldn’t find this product for sale directly in the UK. Somewhere that does custom work might be able to help you if you are not willing to pay the import costs.

6. Can you help? I want one of the ball clamp devices I’ve seen, but I don’t know what they’re called or where they’re sold from. I The ones I’m thinking of consist of two wooden bars perhaps a foot long, flat, with a curve in the middle. They clamp together trapping the scrotum and hold the balls back behind the legs. Any advice very much appreciated…

Ahh, a simple question at last lol… it’s called The Humbler and can be bought at most BDSM / Fetish stores around the country. As well as many places online. After a bit of looking around, one of the best sites i’ve seen for it is actually “Chastity Play” where you can pick it up for about £30… Nice :p

Well, think that’s it for this session lol… Didn’t actually expect people to be writing in and asking questions when I mentioned in my video blog that I would be willing to do so… Well, you’re all more than welcome to ask if you have any questions about the site or anything we do here. Just drop an e-mail to contact@mistresskent.com and all your questions will be answered.

Hope everyone got the answer they were looking for, and any more will be answered in a regular blog update

M